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Friday, November 1, 2013

Trials= blessings

Jeff and I bit the bullet. We bought a home!! Back in this post http://www.dahisanddahers.blogspot.com/2013/04/a-much-needed-update.html I mentioned that we had put an offer in on a home. That was back in March. It was a short sale, so we knew it may take a while. We had no clue it would take until the end of September. Regardless of how long it took, we could not be any more thrilled. We never gave up hope, and we always got a confirmation that purchasing a home was the right thing to do. We got word from our relator that we needed to close asap. So my husband jumped into gear. Along with working 40 hours, maintaining 2 horses, and dealing with tons of estrogen at home. He managed to successfully close on our home with in a week!! He is a stud, what can I say. It was a very stressful time, and at times I think we were ready to call it quits. We endured, and are so happy we did. Jeff has always been very money wise. During college, he worked full time, in order to avoid student loans. He graduated debt free!! So going into this home, and accepting the fact that debt was the only option, made him nervous. We had been saving, and were pretty sure we would be able to put down 20%, and avoid the mortgage insurance. This helped ease Jeff's nerves. During this process Jeff's employer was aware of our house buying process. We never doubted, or were insecure about Jeff's job. We felt he a very stable job, and if there was a thought of him being laid off. We were sure his employer would give us a head up, due to the fact we were purchasing a home. Jeff and I had been  in our new home for 2 days. I was upstairs playing with the girls, and I heard the garage open. It was very early, for Jeff to be home. I ran down stairs, and met him in the garage. Immediately, I knew something was wrong. Jeff looked broken. He than informed me, that his position was being dissolved. He was offered another position that was all commission based. With a new mortgage that was not a option. We both felt sick. We were so confused, as to why we were prompted to purchase our home. Jeff said we needed to go to the temple. I could not have agreed more. Thankfully for his mom, and step mom, we were able to make this happen. That session was amazing, and I felt the Saviors love. We went in with prayers in our hearts, to know what to do. We did not want to be bitter, or angry. We just wanted peace. We decided in the Celestial room that, come what may we had our eternal family. That was all that mattered. Our home is our temporary home. We decided that if by Friday(and it was Tuesday) we had not heard anything about a job we would sell our home. With how much we put into our home, we could not risk to lose it. We also would have made money. We thought this could possibly be the means in which Jeff could pay his way through grad school. We did feel peace, and decided to go on with faith. Jeff was given two weeks at his current job. I cannot fathom what it would be like, to have to go back to work after feeling so betrayed. He did, with a smile on his face. He chose not to be angry. He chose not to hold resentment. He decided to finish out with grace. The NEXT day, Jeff met with a family friend, and had a interview. Jeff came home with a smile on his face. He informed me that he was almost certain, that this job would work. Relief was immediate, and gratefulness filled my soul. It was still not certain, if Jeff would get the job, but we kept faith. On Monday Jeff was offered the job! His salary would be matched, and we would get benefits! Words cannot explain the joy, and gratitude we felt. Through all this, Jeff was such an example. I think he fasted for 3 days straight. Never complained, and always was optimistic. His new job is 5 mins away, and he would start as soon as his other job ended. From Jeff's previous job, he had two weeks paid time off, which he had not used. So they paid him that, and his last pay check. We were amazed. What was going to be a huge trial, actually turned into a huge blessing. We have been able to pay off
our hospital bills, and get totally caught up. This was one of the scariest things Jeff, and I have gone through together. I am grateful for this opportunity. Instead of asking why us. I decided to think, " why not us"? We deserve to struggle, just as much as the next person. I have been reminded, of just how great my husband is. Perspective was truly seen as to what truly matters. I am so grateful for my Heavenly Father, and the love he has for my family.

I will post more about the house later!


  1. You guys are so strong and what a great example I needed this today!

  2. Amanda, thanks for sharing! it's amazing how trials like this really teach you about Heavenly Father's love! we had something similar but now we are seeing the blessings of being patient and trusting! love you guys and so thankful for your example! -Nykell